For most addicts, regaining a social life after addiction treatment is a scary prospect. Even in the best circumstances – with supportive friends who aren’t themselves addicts – alcohol is likely to be a part of many social activities. And when it comes to dating, forget it – how many of us can imagine trying to meet someone without the relaxation and lowered inhibitions that alcohol can provide? It feels like being blindfolded, spun in a circle and staggering around to pin the tail on the donkey. It’s tough to even know where to start.
But, believe it or not, it is possible to re-enter the dating scene as a sober person. Meeting romantic prospects and dating doesn’t have to be relegated to bars and places where people are under the influence of alcohol. In fact, single people often lament that “you never meet anyone worthwhile in a bar or club.” See, as a sober individual, you already have a head start on meeting the person of your dreams!
So where should you start?
- MeetUps – MeetUp.com has thousands of groups for interests varying from camping to the arts. These events draw likeminded people on regular bases to not only engage in fun activities centered around their common interests, but to socialize and make new friends.
- Volunteering – Maybe you’re interested in working on a politician’s campaign or perhaps reading to kids with cancer is more your speed, but getting involved in a cause close to your heart is an excellent way to meet individuals who have priorities greater in life than sitting at the local watering hole every weekend.
- Coffee shops – It’s a cliché to assume that coffee shops are great venues for people in recovery to go trolling for a Saturday night date, but it’s impossible to deny that it’s true. Get yourself set up with a latte and your favorite book or computer on a regular basis and we can nearly guarantee that you’ll eventually end up striking up a conversation with that cute guy or girl you see there every week.
- The gym and fitness clubs – Many of us who are newly sober find comfort in exercise and gain a newfound mission to keep our bodies healthy. By meeting people in a gym or exercise club – like a running group – you’ll find others who are dedicated to healthy living and more than likely are not heavy drinkers.
- Online dating – The stigma attached to online dating is now a thing of the past and millions of people worldwide subscribe to at least one dating site. These sites allow you to find people with common activities and interests, as well as social and drinking habits. It’s a non-threatening environment that can introduce you to people who you might not ever otherwise meet.